Schools have an important role in preventing youth suicide, and being aware of potential risk factors in students’ lives is vital to this responsibility. The trending Netflix series 13 Reasons Why, based on a young adult novel of the same name, is raising such concerns. The series revolves around 17-year- old Hannah Baker, who takes her own life and leaves behind audio recordings for 13 people who she says in some way were part of why she killed herself. Each tape recounts painful events in which one or more of the 13 individuals played a role.
Producers for the show say they hope the series can help those who may be struggling with thoughts of suicide. However, the series, which many teenagers are binge watching without adult guidance and support, is raising concerns from suicide prevention experts about the potential risks posed by the sensationalized treatment of youth suicide. The series graphically depicts a suicide death and addresses in wrenching detail a number of difficult topics, such a bullying, rape, drunk driving, and slut shaming. The series also highlights the consequences of teenagers witnessing assaults and bullying (i.e., bystanders) and not taking action to address the situation (e.g., not speaking out against the incident, not telling an adult about the incident).
CAUTIONS
We do not recommend that vulnerable youth, especially those who have any degree of suicidal ideation, watch this series. Its powerful storytelling may lead impressionable viewers to romanticize the choices made by the characters and/or develop revenge fantasies. They may easily identify with the experiences portrayed and recognize both the intentional and unintentional effects on the central character. Unfortunately, adult characters in the show, including the second school counselor who inadequately addresses Hannah’s pleas for help, do not inspire a sense of trust or ability to help. Hannah’s parents are also unaware of the events that lead to her suicide death.
While many youth are resilient and capable of differentiating between a TV drama and real life, engaging in thoughtful conversations with them about the show is vital. Doing so presents an opportunity to help them process the issues addressed, consider the consequences of certain choices, and reinforce the message that suicide is not a solution to problems and that help is available. This is particularly important for adolescents who are isolated, struggling, or vulnerable to suggestive images and storylines. Research shows that exposure to another person’s suicide, or to graphic or sensationalized accounts of death, can be one of the many risk factors that youth struggling with mental health conditions cite as a reason they contemplate or attempt suicide.
What the series does accurately convey is that there is no single cause of suicide. Indeed, there are likely as many different pathways to suicide as there are suicide deaths. However, the series does not emphasize that common among most suicide deaths is the presence of treatable mental illnesses. Suicide is not the simple consequence of stressors or coping challenges, but rather, it is most typically a combined result of treatable mental illnesses and overwhelming or intolerable stressors.
School psychologists and other school-employed mental health professionals can assist stakeholders (e.g., school administrators, parents, and teachers) to engage in supportive conversations with students as well as provide resources and offer expertise in preventing harmful behaviors.
GUIDANCE FOR EDUCATORS

1. While we do not recommend that all students view this series, it can be appreciated as an opportunity to better understand young people’s experiences, thoughts, and feelings. Children and youth who view this series will need supportive adults to process it. Take this opportunity to both prevent the risk of harm and identify ongoing social and behavior problems in the school community that may need to be addressed.
   
2. Help students articulate their perceptions when viewing controversial content, such as 13 Reasons Why. The difficult issues portrayed do occur in schools and communities, and it is important for adults to listen, take adolescents’ concerns seriously, and be willing to offer to help.
   
3. Reinforce that school-employed mental health professionals are available to help. Emphasize that the behavior of the second counselor in the series is understood by virtually all school-employed mental health professionals as inappropriate. It is important that all school-employed mental health professionals receive training in suicide risk assessment.
   
4. Make sure parents, teachers, and students are aware of suicide risk warning signs. Always take warning signs seriously, and never promise to keep them secret. Establish a confidential reporting mechanism for students. Common signs include:
   
   •  Suicide threats, both direct (“I am going to kill myself.” “I need life to stop.”) and indirect (“I
     need it to stop.” “I wish I could fall asleep and never wake up.”). Threats can be verbal or
     written, and they are often found in online postings.
     
   •  Giving away prized possessions.
     
   •  Preoccupation with death in conversation, writing, drawing, and social media.
     
   •  Changes in behavior, appearance/hygiene, thoughts, and/or feelings. This can include
     someone who is typically sad who suddenly becomes extremely happy.
     
   •  Emotional distress.
     
5. Students who feel suicidal are not likely to seek help directly; however, parents, school personnel, and peers can recognize the warning signs and take immediate action to keep the youth safe. When a student gives signs that they may be considering suicide, take the following actions:
   
   •  Remain calm, be nonjudgmental, and listen. Strive to understand the intolerable emotional
     pain that has resulted in suicidal thoughts.
     
   •  Avoid statements that might be perceived as minimizing the student’s emotional pain (e.g.,
     “You need to move on.” or “You should get over it.”).
     
   •  Ask the student directly if they are thinking about suicide (i.e., "Are you thinking of suicide?").
     
   •  Focus on your concern for their well-being and avoid being accusatory.
     
   •  Reassure the student that there is help and they will not feel like this forever.
     
   •  Provide constant supervision. Do not leave the student alone.
     
   •  Without putting yourself in danger, remove means for self-harm, including any weapons the
     person might find.
     
   •  Get help. Never agree to keep a student's suicidal thoughts a secret. Instead, school staff
     should take the student to a school-employed mental health professional. Parents should seek help from school or community mental health resources. Students should tell an appropriate caregiving adult, such as a school psychologist, administrator, parent, or teacher.
     
6. School or district officials should determine how to handle memorials after a student has died. Promote memorials that benefit others (e.g., donations for a suicide prevention program) and activities that foster a sense of hope and encourage positive action. The memorial should not glorify, highlight, or accentuate the individual’s death. It may lead to imitative behaviors or a suicide contagion (Brock et al., 2016).
   
7. Reinforcing resiliency factors can lessen the potential of risk factors that lead to suicidal ideation and behaviors. Once a child or adolescent is considered at risk, schools, families, and friends should work to build these factors in and around the youth.
   
   •  Family support and cohesion, including good communication.
     
   •  Peer support and close social networks.
     
   •  School and community connectedness.
     

•  Cultural or religious beliefs that discourage suicide and promote healthy living.
  
•  Adaptive coping and problem-solving skills, including conflict resolution.
  
•  General life satisfaction, good self-esteem, and a sense of purpose.
  
•  Easy access to effective medical and mental health resources.
  

1. Strive to ensure that all student spaces on campus are monitored and that the school environment is truly safe, supportive, and free of bullying.
   
2. If additional guidance is needed, ask for support from your building- or district-level crisis team. The team may be able to assist with addressing unique situations affecting your building.
   

See Preventing Suicide: Guidelines for Administrators and Crisis Teams for additional guidance. Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE) and the JED Foundation have created talking
points for conversations with youth specific to the 13 Reasons Why series, available online. GUIDANCE FOR FAMILIES

1. Ask your child if they have heard or seen the series 13 Reasons Why. While we don’t recommend that they be encouraged to view the series, do tell them you want to watch it, with them or to catch up, and discuss their thoughts.
   
2. If they exhibit any of the warning signs above, don’t be afraid to ask if they have thought about suicide or if someone is hurting them. Raising the issue of suicide does not increase the risk or plant the idea. On the contrary, it creates the opportunity to offer help.
   
3. Ask your child if they think any of their friends or classmates exhibit warning signs. Talk with them about how to seek help for their friend or classmate. Guide them on how to respond when they see or hear any of the warning signs.
   
4. Listen to your children’s comments without judgment. Doing so r
   .
   
5. Get help from a school-employed or community-based mental health professional if you are
   concerned for your child’s safety or the safety of one of their peers.
   

See Preventing Youth Suicide Brief Facts (also available in Spanish) and Preventing Youth Suicide:
Tips or Parents and Educators for additional information. SAFE MESSAGING FOR STUDENTS

1. Suicide is never a solution. It is an irreversible choice regarding a temporary problem. There is help. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or know someone who is, talk to a trusted adult, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or text “START” to 741741.
   
2. Don't be afraid to talk to your friends about how they feel and let them know you care about them.
   
3. Be an “upstander” and take actions to reduce bullying and increase positive connections among
   others. Report concerns.
   
4. Never promise to keep secret behaviors that represent a danger toward another person.
   
5. Suicide is preventable. People considering suicide typically say something or do something that
   is a warning sign. Always take warning signs seriously and know the warning signs.
   
   •  Suicide threats, both direct ("I am going to kill myself.") and indirect ("I wish I could fall asleep
     and never wake up."). Can be verbal, written, or posted online.
     
   •  Suicide notes and planning, including online postings.
     
   •  Preoccupation with death in conversation, writing, drawing, and social media.
     
   •  Changes in behavior, appearance/hygiene, thoughts, and/or feelings.
     
   •  Emotional distress.
     

equires that you fully concentrate,
understand, respond, and then remember what is being said. Put your own agenda aside

1. Separate myths and facts.
   
   •  MYTH: Talking about suicide will make someone choose death by suicide who has never
     thought about it before. FACT: There is no evidence to suggest that talking about suicide plants the idea. Talking with your friend about how they feel and letting them know that you care about them is important. This is the first step in getting your friend help.
     
   •  MYTH: People who struggle with depression or other mental illness are just weak. FACT: Depression and other mental illnesses are serious health conditions and are treatable.
     
   •  MYTH: People who talk about suicide won't really do it. FACT: People, particularly young
     people who are thinking about suicide, typically demonstrate warning signs. Always take these
     warning signs seriously.
     
2. Never leave the person alone; seek out a trusted adult immediately. School-employed mental
   health professionals like your school psychologist are trusted sources of help.
   
3. Work with other students and the adults in the school if you want to develop a memorial for
   someone who has died by suicide. Although decorating a student’s locker, creating a memorial social media page, or other similar activities are quick ways to remember the student who has died, they may influence others to imitate or have thoughts of wanting to die as well. It is recommended that schools develop memorial activities that encourage hope and promote positive outcomes for others (e.g., suicide prevention programs).
   

Read these helpful points from SAVE.org and the JED Foundation to further understand how 13 Reasons Why dramatizes situations and the realities of suicide. See Save a Friend: Tips for Teens to Prevent Suicide for additional information.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

•  National Suicide Prevention Hotline,1-800-273-TALK (8255), or text “START” to 741741
  
•  Center for Disease Control Suicide Datasheet
  
•  SAMHSA Prevention Suicide: A Toolkit for High Schools
  
•  Suicide Prevention Resource Center, After a Suicide: Toolkit for Schools
  
•  Memorials: Special Considerations for Memorializing an Incident WEBSITES
  

•  National Association of School Psychologists, www.nasponline.org
  
•  American Association of Suicidology, www.suicidology.org
  
•  Suicide Awareness Voices of Education, www.save.org
  
•  American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, https://afsp.org/
  
•  www.stopbullying.gov
  
•  Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, www.rainn.org
  REFERENCES
  Brock, S. E., Nickerson, A. B., Louvar Reeves, M. A., Conolly, C., Jimerson, S., Pesce, R, & Lazarro, B. (2016). School crisis prevention and intervention: The PREPaRE model (2nd ed.). Bethesda, MD: National Association of School Psychologists.
  Contributors: Christina Conolly, Kathy Cowan, Peter Faustino, Ben Fernandez, Stephen Brock, Melissa Reeves, Rich Lieberman
  © 2017, National Association of School Psychologists, 4340 East West Highway, Suite 402, Bethesda, MD 20814, 301-657-0270, www.nasponline.org
  Document may be adapted or excerpted with proper acknowledgement. Please cite as:
  National Association of School Psychologists. (2017). 13 Reasons Why Netflix series: Considerations for educators [handout]. Bethesda, MD: Author.
  

Are The National Youth Leadership Forum Programs Worth It?  



Based on the questions in my in-box, I guess it is that time of year again—time for letters notifying students of their nomination for National Youth Leadership Forum programs and the summer experiences you can elect to join.
First, National Youth Leadership Forum (NYLF) programs are legitimate.  This is not a scam, but this program is no more recognized than other organized summer-camp program.  The letter makes it seem as if NYLF is the only way your child can receive this type of recognition and enrichment.  I’ve had many students over the years attend the summer programs and I think they can be great enrichment experiences for students, but I would encourage you to shop around.
Just so you understand the nomination process—teachers, counselors, and deans are sent nomination forms.  Many list top students and send them back to National Youth Leadership Forum. Some programs also get mailing lists from the SAT, PSAT, ACT, PLAN, etc.  Once they have compiled names they send their promotional materials to the student telling them they have been nominated for the program.
Yes, it is a nice to recognize top students.  However, I feel as if the marketing materials overstate the prestige.  Hundreds of students at each high school are nominated to participate; it is not an exclusive opportunity.
Colleges like to see students develop their interests.  National Youth Leadership Forum programs are one way to do this.  Unfortunately, the programs are often limited to a week to 10 days and cost more than many other camps.  Personally, I like to see students participate in programs that also enhance their knowledge of the college experience and/ or show their own creativity and willingness to develop their interests independent of an organized program.
You might want to compare the National Youth Leadership Forum offerings to the programs offered by different colleges.  If one can participate in a two-week college program for the same price, he or she will also gain an appreciation for dorm and college life.
Another great summer opportunity is to create your own opportunities, which shows even greater initiative.
I can’t say whether the National Youth Leadership Forum program is right for your family.  I have known students in the past who have participated and loved it.  I do think there are other less expensive options that will provide extra enrichment and experience in the field.  Understand that this is just one of many options for your student.
[Update: We discuss the National Youth Leadership Forum programs and other options on the January 26, 2015 episode of The College Prep Podcast.  The discussion begins around 22:20 minutes.  You can listen on iTunes (episode 27) or online here.]

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It is that time of year – letters from the National Society of High School Scholars (NSHSS) start arriving.  Please know that Chadron High School has not nominated your son or daughter, because this organization is for-profit.  We support the National Honor Society (NHS) which has a chapter at Chadron High School and doesn’t require such fees; it is non-profit.  National Honor Society (NHS) is respected and honored by colleges and universities.

Here is some basic information:  The National Society of High School Scholars (NSHSS) is a for-profit national organization established in 2002 and claims 500,000 members.  Students pay an individual fee of $60 to join. NSHSS is operated from a corporate office in Atlanta, Georgia and doesn’t have local chapters.
These recognitions, often referred to as Vanity Awards, should be checked out thoroughly before a payment is made to an organization.  You are paying for the title on a resume, a certificate, and a name in a book, which you may then also purchase.
The National Society of High School Scholars lists membership services on its website, but these services are available to anyone, without paying a fee. All students can easily access college and scholarship information through free online search engines such as those listed on our website under the Post-Secondary tab and Scholarships tab.  EducationQuest’s free services can do what NSHHS offers and more!

I am very proud of our senior class so far this year - they have been working their tails off in the high school applying to college, talking about work/gap year options, and applying to scholarships! Please click on the link for a list of all scholarships we have been sending out to the kids and working on in College Readiness Class.

Look for many more to come out in the next few weeks.  ALSO, all students in my College Readiness class have set up a ScholarshipQuest account.  This account will directly pair them with national and Nebraska scholarships that they are directly eligible to apply for.  This site is truly amazing as it does all the searching and pairing for the kids.  As a parent you may want to sit down and have your student log into this account so you can see what it looks like!  

The December ACT late registration deadline is THIS Friday for any student who wants to give the ACT one more shot.  Many schools are telling us they will still take the December ACT for scholarship consideration.  Remember, a 25 and above gets you full tuition at Chadron State, Wayne State, and Peru State Colleges and a 21-24 get's half!!  I encourage all students to apply to Chadron, Wayne, and Peru with their easy and free application process!

The students also need to work on scholarship applications for the SPECIFIC colleges they applied to.  Example:  Once you are admitted to Chadron State College you must log into your MyCSC account and click the To Do List to access the scholarship link and fill out the online scholarship form.  These deadlines are FAST approaching so there is little time to waste on apply to specific colleges and their college only scholarships.

Last but not least I am looking at incorporating a few Senior Scholarship Work Nights from 6-8 p.m. next semester.  The tentative dates are January 15th (6-8) February 12th (6-8) look for more information to come next month!  

I have attached the EducationQuest monthly bulletin, great information here!  Please call or email if there are any questions.